Going, going, going...nah...

A couple of posts ago, I wrote about my exhaustion. My life has been so busy lately in good and bad ways. Today, I went to church and then I LOUNGED - napping on and off and watching reruns of America's Next Top Model. It has been delicious! Wow, I needed to recoup and am glad I took advantage of this afternoon.

So why did I need to recoup? Well, I've been away from home for the last few weekends with WWII re-enactments and visiting friends and loved ones. It's been a blast, but sometimes a person just needs to veg out. But I'm so thankful for the things I've been able to do recently.

On a different note, I wanted to mention that I've been single for a couple of months now and have entered the scary world of dating. So I've been asking advice from lots of different people in different areas of my life. I think it's crazy that men joke about never figuring women out when I think men are much more complicated to decipher. I need a translator sometimes. And yet, I persist. But the one thing I have decided upon re-entering the dating scene is that no one really knows anything about it. You really can't base any judgement on pop culture or media because it's not real. But each person's experience is so unique and different that advice doesn't seem to help anyone else. How many dates makes a relationship? When should you consider being exclusive? Why hasn't this person asked me out? Should I ask them? Should I call, text, or email? Is it too early to give a gift? What is over the top? Am I being too clingy? Am I being too distant? There are a gazillion articles about dating on the internet addressing these issues. And everyone has an opinion, so I'm stating mine. There is not a right answer. What one person might find clingy, another might find romantic. Maybe one person is sick of getting texts, but another person really likes them. Maybe that person is waiting for an invite instead of inviting the other person. It's so complicated. I think the best thing to do is act the way that feels natural to you and hope you meet someone who appreciates you for you. Trying to fit a mold is a mistake. If I do what is natural to me and someone doesn't dig it, then it's time to move on anyway. Trying to be something I'm not is just not going to work. And it's really exhausting. I find it tiring enough just to deal with being me. I don't have time to be something or someone else. And I like feeling like what you see is what you get. I love to play games, but not in relationships - romantic or otherwise. Who has time for it? If you have time for it, you have too much free time and need a hobby.